Motion Creates Emotion

Body language is a form of non-verbal communication consisting of eye movements, body posture, facial expressions and gestures. Research shows that 60-70% of all communication comes from body language, 30% derives from tone while only 10% of what we say comes from words. So it was no wonder when my business partner asked me what was bothering me last week that she knew my response, “I’m fine” did match up to what my hunch back of Notre Dame posture suggested, that I obviously wasn’t. At the time I just didn’t’ want to talk about it but because I’m a feeler, I couldn’t simply shake it off. I’m not the kind of stoic robot that hides emotion. easily. When I’m happy, the whole world knows and when I’m upset, it really shows; I wear my heart on my sleeve and I’m proud of it. Problem is when I’m down, it affects my work and ultimately my business. Although the problem wasn’t going to be fixed overnight, I needed to find a way to get my mind off of it and get me to being more productive.

After reading part of  Tony Robbin’s “Awaken the Giant Within”, his words ’emotion is created by motion’ radiated in my head like a bad (or in this case good) migraine. ‘Everything that we feel is the result of how we use our bodies.’ I needed to take action… immediately! I had not exercised in a few days and it clearly was affecting my emotions. I also went back into my memory bank and thought of all the things that made me happy and dancing was one of them. I hadn’t danced in 12 years! Something that I was clearly passionate about was absent from my life and incorporating it would not only help relieve stress but also endorphins which would make me feel better. That is why tonight I’ve decided to enroll in my first dance class in over 12 years at the University Center for the Performing Arts. This will be just one of the new changes that I am implementing in my life and creating the happiness that I seek!

I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t think or deal with your problems. What I am saying though is be mindful of what you’re NOT saying as it is a tell-tale sign of what we are feeling. if you’re felling a negative emotion, you can choose to change it in an instant! Movement makes us happy! Have you ever tried dancing with a frown. I challenge you to do it and you won’t be able to. Maybe a straight face but not a frown. The next time you feel upset, go to the bathroom and smile really, really hard for 5 seconds. If that doesn’t work, do 10 jump n jacks or run in place for 1 min. I can almost guarantee, you’ll feel better about the situation.

What activities make you happy? Share them with me… I’m willing to try (ALMOST) anything once 🙂

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Standing up…. once again

I had been having a bad week. The most tragic thing that could ever happen to someone had just happened to me. As a small business owner, I was devastated. Nearly in tears, I sulked for a few days. Everything, all of my personal documents, my business contracts and overall life as I knew it had been on that zip drive and just like that, it had failed. I can’t remember the error message but all I knew is that there was no do-over. Once I’ve formatted the disk, I couldn’t take it back and I couldn’t open the documents either way.

Just when all faith had all but gone out of the window, one morning my tone changed. I wanted some fruit so I decided to go to the local supermarket (whose name I will not disclose) and
headed straight to the organic section. While picking up a bunch of fruit, (which I enjoyed more than anything I had ever tasted, they were so sweet!!) I heard the head cashier announce for “All cashiers CHECK please, All cashier CHECK! (Insert inaudible name here) COME TO YOUR REGISTER PLEASE! I NEED all cashiers to CHECK PLEASE!”

Right then and there it hit me… The sound of her voice hollering through the microphone was equivalent to blaring sirens to my ear. It was reminiscent of a cattlewoman calling to her herd…. And I didn’t’ like that feeling or that thought. I had always had a bit of a problem with jobs and the ‘wrong kind of’ authority. Respect was never a problem whether you were an elder or minor but working for someone was just not something I could digest for too much longer. I know I’m not the only one who felt smarter than her supervisors. Because I once worked for this company, I could personally relate to what having to go back meant: unmeaningful work, long hours, no place for advancement, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. That moment, I snapped out of my nearly depressive state and I made a decision to deal with the hand I had been given. Yesterday is long gone; I can only control what happens today.

Perseverance wouldn’t let me walk away without a fight. I couldn’t imagine going back to a world that made me unhappiness. The whole reason I got into entrepreneurship is so I could create in my own way and set my own rules. I hadn’t come this far to give up so soon.

So as I write this blog, I have vowed to not spend another day feeling sorry for myself. I’ve learned the importance of doing more than one data back up; maybe even email the document to myself if I have to.  I had just discovered Florence + the Machine and I couldn’t wait to dissect her sound and recreate! Music was the only best friend that could remedy this and a new sound always bring on fresh, new ideas. Besides, I could right all those wrongs I did wrong the first time around. 🙂

“Fall seven times, stand up eight.” — Japanese Proverb

Modern Naturalista

Live out your Passions; Live out Loud!

Last night I watched a film… this film, though hard to sustain during certain scenes, was something that could not be ignored. It taught me about passion and persistence. The movie:? PERFUME

Perfume is a murderous tale about a man born from virtually nothing who finds discovers his passion and stops at nothing to realize its full potential. Jean-Baptiste Grenouille was born in France to a mother whose 4 previous children were still-born. She wasn’t expecting him to survive but he did … and with the extraordinary gift of smell. Grenouille could decipher the smell of anything…. as long as it weren’t new. His passion for smells lead him to find the best perfume maker in all of France. This is a man who was enslaved for most of his life and yet managed to not let his misfortunes detour him from his passion.

I won’t give away any more details of the film for some of you may want to enjoy it but the message is clear: PASSION and PERSISTENCE will take you very far in life.

Have you ever taken in by someone’s enthusiasm? This person, whether she were selling you a product of simply giving you a review spoke with such a passion that you felt you wanted what it was that they were speaking of? That type of passion, enthusiasm can not be bought or faked. So often many of us go into professions that we have no interest in and it shows a few years, months or even weeks on the job. Why torture yourself? If I’ve learned anything from this economic transitional period (AKA: recession) it’s that we are now living in a time where we are not limited in what we can do and how we can live. Our parents and grandparents were forced to work for a living concerned with putting food on the table and keeping the lights on. This new information generation has afforded us the luxury of living out our passions and making our wildest dreams come true!

Everyday I am surrounded by entrepreneurs and business people who got into business simply by choosing to live out their passions. You can do the same! Take a few moments to figure out what your passion are.

Here are a few tips to help you discover your passions:

1.) Go back to your childhood: What did you enjoy doing when you were younger? Did you enjoy stories, building blocks? That may be the key to living the life you want?

2.) What are your hobbies? What do you do enjoy doing in your spare time? How do you life to spend your free time? Your passions may be discovered in your down time, away from the time clock!

3.) Has more than 3 people told you you’re good at a particular skill? If a few people are telling you something it may be true; this hold true for both good and bad 😉 Listen to them… especially if they’re your close friends and family and you value their opinion.

This generation that we are embarking in is the time for you to live your passions and go back to dreaming. Find what makes you happy and the money will come.

What’s Your Color? (Part 2)

Now that you’ve discovered your undertone (see What’s Your Color? Part 1) what next? GO PRACTICE! If you can’t go shopping, you should at least do some window shopping: this way you’ll know which colors look best on your skin complexion next time you have some money to spend. Again, the right colors can make you stand out and the wrong colors will make you seem drab :

Cool Tone Advice:

YOUR BEST COLORS

  • black
  • navy
  • grey
  • purple

Avoid:

  • Gold, bronze or warm red tones. These can give you a sallow look
  • Yellow based colors as your hair and skin will begin to blend making you look ill, washed out or it may exaggerate any ‘yellowness’ in your skin

Warm Tone Advice:

YOUR BEST COLORS:

  • rust, olive
  • khaki, mustard
  • warm rich browns
  • olive greens
  • tomato reds

Avoid:

  • Violet, blue and white colors, which can wash out your natural coloring
  • Too much ash in your hair as this can make you look older, pale and drawn

Neutral Tone Advice:

Neither too warm nor too cool, you most likely be able to pull off almost any color.

  • Choose a color that will enhance your eye color
  • Bring out yellow flecks with golds and reds
  • Enhance dark eyes with exotic colors like dark wine
  • Try colors like sandy blonde, beige blonde, chocolate-brown and mahogany

Avoid:

  • Earth tones and muted colors (charcoal, beige, grey)

Check out this short video that further explains it may not be the outfit but the color that makes a difference:

http://video.about.com/fashion/Dress-for-Your-Skin-Tone.htm

Keep in mind, there are no right or wrong colors, just the ones that make you look the most fabulous! For now at least, I urge you to go to your favorite store, and play around with the colors (see chart) that work with your undertone. If you have some time to play, go to one of your favorite high-end luxury stores and go see a stylist/personal shopper. Most of them will provide this service for free! This is your excuse to go frolic at your favorite store and have fun with colors!

 

Modern Naturalista

What’s Your Color? (Part 1)

Ever wonder why certain colors look better on you than others? Maybe the red dress looks really good on your girlfriend and for some reason looks hideous on you. Don’t be jealous! It’s only because you have a different undertone than she does. Fashion and make-up isn’t just gauged
by season or designer, it’s often determined by your tone. Take the following test to see which color is best for you.

Undertone Test:

1.)  In natural light, look at the veins on your arms. What color are they?

a.)   Green

b.)   Blue

2.)   What color are your hair and eyes?

a.)   Dark eyes:  brown, black, or hazel WITH black, brown, blond, red, or strawberry blond hair

b.)   Light colored eyes: blue, green, or grey WITH blond, black, or brown hair?

 Tally up your answers….

Did you answer both A? If so you’re a WARM.

Did you answer both B? If so, you’re a COOL.

If you found that you fluctuated between A and B then congratulations, you’re a NEUTRAL
tone!

Why is this important you ask? It’s no secret that we all want to look and feel our best. Based on who you ask, clothing may boost your confidence levels through the roof but if you’re wearing the wrong colors, you may be doing more harm than good. It could mean the difference
between receiving a compliment and someone assuming you’re sick. :-/

In the right colors (cosmetics and clothing):

  • Your skin tone will appear radiant and glowing
  • Your eyes will appear brighter and clearer
  • Your hair will reflect highlights
  • You appear vibrant, lively!

In the wrong colors:

  • Your skin tone will appear tired and drained
  • Your eyes may appear shadowed, dark circles
  • Teeth can appear with a slight yellow hue
  • You look tired, drab

Personally, I’ve seen a major difference in my fashion sense since I’ve discovered that I can’t wear bold, bright colors (best for COOL). My warm undertone reflects a deep brown skin tone, dark eyes, with golden undertones. Discovering your undertone is one of many steps to uncovering a world of increased self-confidence. I encourage you to find which colors which work for you as it may mean the difference between fabulous and not!

Stay tuned for Part Deux of ‘What’s Your Color?’

Today I am Rich!

Today… I am rich!

I’ve never felt more alive. Suddenly, my past doesn’t seem
like a plethora of haunting memories of bad decisions. I decided today that
nothing mattered… any of the bad stuff at least. Today allowed me to view
yesterday as a necessary stepping stone for the person I am to become tomorrow.
All the doubt, all the hurt, all the negativity and fear seemed to prepare me
for today. Never have I felt more awakened!

The city seemed different, the air smelled different, my
thoughts seemed different… I made a decision today to never look back.
Everything up until this point was practice. Today is what separates the girl
from the woman. If I could capture a moment of growth, this was it! I have the
opportunity to live the life beautifully and naturally created for me… by
me.  No script, no scenes; just a
director, me and my lenses, my eyes. I am excited!

No longer am I afraid to be me. I am free to explore my
talents and employ my skills. Very few people are afforded a moment like this
and now I have arrived into my own. I am elated. I am filled with raw emotions
and nothing supersedes this moment.

All too often I found myself being stressed due to
overextending myself to others only to be met with no support in return. I am a
giver and will always be. Now I realize I can only do so to those who will do
the same for me. It’s time to dedicate time and energy to me.

I am a business woman and I am living out my dreams. In the
past weeks, I have come to realize that children are the most amazing beings.
Their world is full of imagination, full of color and filled with exploration.
Adults are merely children who have lost their sense of imagination. Somewhere
along the way we’ve lost our ability to dream. Somewhere along the way, we lost
our imagination and the explorative nature which colors our world. Today, I’ve
gained back my childhood and I will live out my passions: art, music, dance,
writing, culture, empowerment, philanthropy, business and much more! I will no
longer allow anyone to take that from me and those who try (and they will try)
will no longer be a factor in my life. I can no longer give 80% of my energy to
bottom 20% of the things and people in my life. I have claimed my talents,
strengths and passion and I will live them out loudly! My live is full of abundance
and I vow to live it in living color. I have declared my goals and have created
a plan to follow. I will not detour from this plan and I affirmed… Today I am
Rich!

 

Cut hair styling time in half!

It’s that time again… My hair is asking… no begging for a wash and perhaps even a treatment. While I enjoy the long shower when washing and conditioning and I really love the smell of my own products, I sometimes dread having to retwist my locs. It’s almost been 4 years and my hair has nearly reached my mid back. There are so many styles I can do to it at this point and that’s the fun part! I love the fact that my hair has so much length but I also find that it takes a little more time to get through it. Over the years, I’ve cut my hair twisting and styling time in half but the longer it gets, the more elaborate styles I can do to it and the more time it can take to get through it.

Here are a few tips I’ve learned along the way that help with getting through the tiredness and sometimes boredom of doing my own hair:

  1. Read a book: With the technology available on our phones today, I find myself always reading a business article or a book. Currently I’m reading Think and Grow Rich and I’m getting through it a lot faster than I would’ve imagined. I would recommend getting a screen protector so that any oils or moisturizer you’re using doesn’t seep into your phone. If you’re a student with reading assignments, you may want to consider reading while styling hair. I’ve found it very helpful!
  2. Play your favorite song (… and DANCE!)! I admit it… I’m a dance music junkie! Something about the electronic beats, the constant drums and synthesized melody can power me for the whole day. When I put on my Pandora or my playlist, I find that I get through my hair in half the time.
  3. Talk to a friend. Sometimes, it takes a good friend to get us through those difficult times and this is no exception. When there’s someone else in the house while I’m doing my hair, if possible, I engage in conversation with them. I’m an extrovert so I can always find something to talk about… that is, if someone is willing to listen. LOL!

Whatever you do…

DO NOT WATCH T.V.!!

I’ve found that t.v. is a big distraction and I try to stay away from until ALL  of my days’ activities have been met, be it business or personal. If you turn on the tube while doing hair, you may find your attention slip and it takes you hours to finish your hair. Have you ever been to a salon and the stylist is watching t.v. and you’ve noticed 15 or 20 minutes go by and she hasn’t started?! I would recommend not even going into a room with a t.v. to avoid the temptation altogether. This will cause lots of frustration as well as loss of time.

I hope will find these tips useful especially if you’re already accustomed to doing more than one thing at a time. I feel so productive when I have to do my hair because I’m killing two birds (sometimes 3) with one stone! Have any tips of your own? Share them with us!